Separated lovers cheat absence by a thousand fancies which have their own reality. They are prevented from seeing one another and they cannot write; nevertheless they find countless mysterious ways of corresponding, by sending each other the song of birds, the scent of flowers, the laughter of children, the light of the sun, the sighing of the wind, and the gleam of the stars - all the beauties of creation. - Victor Hugo
Separation. When the heart is broken. When love is removed and you are emptied of its joy. When the emotions of hurt, anger and grief flood in to refill the dark pit inside. When you start to build a dam to shut out feelings.
To live in such fear precludes healing. The truth is, it is impossible to seal out love and live in happiness. In A Path With Heart author Jack Kornfield wrote , "Our hearts can grow strong at the broken places."
Hurt comes to us all. I am certain that many a suburban sprawler has soothed a sour soul through interaction with the soil. As we found it. Turned it. Amended it. Planted it. Garden and gardener in healing interaction. Dirt becomes soil. Soil becomes a garden.
Tending the garden can more than make up for any intrusion the home in which I live made upon once virgin land. By lovingly tending this modest suburban plot- offering up food, water, nesting and shelter- this created a greater Eden than would exist without our home here. This last photograph is of Matilija poppy. It loves what we have lots of in California- Sunshine. And it doesn't need much of what we are spare of- water. With crepe paper delicate petals and sunshine yellow stamens- its billowy flowers resemble an ostrich egg served sunny-side up- it's clear bright colors offer a jubilant smile- a welcome contrast to the parched plants which neighbor where my garden abuts parched undeveloped hillside terrain.
A native of California hillsides, Matilija poppy can be tricky to establish. Buy now, while it is in flower. But try to hold off planting until the fall, when you have a better chance of success the first go-round. Then be prepared to be wowed this time of year from now-on.